Stressing over a really bad breakup...open for advice?

I was in a three and a half relationship with this guy who i was in love with, we got engaged the beginning of this year and was getting ready to move in together this summer until i came out and told him one of my secrets. About a year ago, when me and him broke up and i messed with this other guy which meant absolutly nothing.We got back together and i never said anything because it was not a big deal. Since we were moving in together this summer i wanted to tell him what happened because i didnt like hiding anything from him. However, he didnt see it my way and broke off teh engagment, friendship everything else between us. I was so heart broken i didnt know what to do with myself, i got really depressed and just thought of him all the time. Now, i still think about him alot and still want to get him back. A week before Hurricane Gustav he got into a bad car accident and i called him just to check on him, we talked and everything was cool. During the storm we still talked and texted each other constantly making sure one another was ok. We started talking about where we are at in our lives separetly, he kept asking me questions about who i been with and who i mess with since the break up, i played hard to get saying i just been doing me, chilling although im sitting around waiting for him. Its been three weeks since the storm and three weeks since i talk to him, everyday i pray that he calls or even show up at my house just so we could work things out,its even harder now becasue he left his cell phone in Texas and now its hard for me to get in contact with him. I still love him withall my heart but dont no if he feels the same way,although many of his family members say he still love me and wants to get back with me but when is he going to show that. He says its going to take time because i hurt him so bad but how much time he needs, we been broken up for almost 6 months now and im gooing crazy. Any advice on how to get him back or anything else????Stressing over a really bad breakup...open for advice?
Show him that your life is fine without him. Go out with friends, go do things on your own, etc. Just live your life and wait for a while to see what happens. He may the one playing hard to get. As long as you're the one pining after him, he's getting what he wants. He wants you to feel miserable about what happened and he's still angry. Just live your life and give him time. I have a feeling he'll be back.Stressing over a really bad breakup...open for advice?
Life sucks sometimes darlin. You made the choice to be honest and tell and he has decided it was so hurtful he can't handle it. He may love you as you do him yet however.................... even if you did get back togehter...............would it be thrown in your face again and again? Will he ever truly get over it and forgive you? If you were broke up at the time and you decided to tell him, I don't understand why he is being so hell bent over it........maybe you might want to truily do some soul searching and take some time and let him make the next effort. I think you made it clear to him by contacting him and telling him you were sorry and letting him know how you feel......so let him decide what he wants now. If he truly loves you, he will contact you, and you might have realized that having someone in your life that can't forgive you over something you did while you were seprated, might not be the kind of man you want in your life. I wish you all the best sweetie.
i was once in your situation. he had broken up with me to tell me that he was getting back with his ex girlfriend... so in the mean time i met someone else and three months later he came back and told me he lied and that he just said that because he was scared bcs he realized he felt alot more for me then he thought. we got together again but once he found out about the other guy he broke up with me again. but we got back together... why because he had been with someone else while we were apart. i'm sure he still loves you and he'll get over it too. he's just hurt, i'm not saying he did but he could have done the same thing too!!! and i'm going to pull a ross.. but YOU WERE ON A BREAK!!! i went to the other guy bcs i was hurt and felt unwanted unattracted and i enjoyed the fact that someone else did want me.
Ok Don't call or text anymore! Wait for him to text you or call... obviously he still cares if he asks who you have been with! But I think for him to break it off in the first place was silly and very immature! It was a long time ago! And be very sure that you love him and want to even take the time to get him back if he isn't understanding at all, and very rash. Is that really someone you want to be with for the rest of your life! But if he is wait. Don't go out with anyone show him that you still love him and that he is it for you he will notice! It will just take time!
Sometimes when situations are like that and things get kept from one another the other person feels like you were still unfaithful.. I would just give him time even though it was while you two werent together. Or you can just tell him how you really feel cause he may be waiting on you to let him know that you still want him back.
It's time to pull it together and move on. If he wanted to be with you...you would be together. Although u were broken up, u didn't tell him when u first got together...and maybe he saw that as lying by omission, and doesn't feel he can trust u.





I just don't believe in putting my life on hold for any man or woman...life is just too short for games.
Don't sit around and wait and don't answer the phone if he does call. If he loves you, he will call and he needs to get used to the fact that you have a life if he isn't around. He acted like an *** by breaking everything off because you were being honest with him about a time that you guys were on break. Watch out. This could be indicitive of similar behavior in future.