I feel really really bad, need some good advice.?

Two days ago, I started a fight with my husband because he didn't have money like my friends' husband to take me on holiday or buy me nice staff.


Although he is really calm but he punched on my head, I got frustrated and rang the police.


I just wanted to scare him.


but the police arrested him and took him away, I started to cry, they treated him like a criminal.


later that day he came back home, but didn't speak a world.


the next day I went to work, but 2 hours later I just felt really bad. and told my office that I had headache and I need to go home.


When I got home, I heard my husband talking to a Solicitor and arranging for an appointment to see them.


I just started to cry and said I didn't want that to happen. He said although he loves me but he doesn't like arguments and he doesn't want to end up to the jail.


but after all we deceided to work things out. But i feel really bad, our reputation has been damaged, neighbours and all this staff, and now he has acriminal recourdI feel really really bad, need some good advice.?
All i have to say is money is not everything, yes it helps so we can get the things we need and to pay bills with, have you ever tried saving some by just putting some odd change away, it may take a while but i put most of my small change away, as pennies turn into pounds, and i just have my pension each week, which is not all that much, and have not had a holiday for years so many i can't remember the last time i went away. And now you have ruined your reputation and your husband now has a criminal record,over something that could have been avoided, and all because your friend can have a holiday and you can't right now.I feel really really bad, need some good advice.?
then forget that holiday of yours you were thinking of taking and sit down and talk to him to prove that you really feel bad and that you are sorry! and usually that would make him apologise for punching you in the head. This might make him reconsider everything about solicitors too.





Also tell him that you can go on that holiday when u can really have the time / afford it! ( actually dont mention that on the same day as you are apologizing do it the next do or something )





All the best!
i mean.. that is pretty low of you that you got mad at him that he doesnt have enough money to get you things. but that was pretty violent of him to just throw a punch. he is trying hard to get money, and im sure you are too. just give it time and things may start to happen. if your truly in love, you dont need ';nice things';
He punched your head!! But don't ever get down on your man because he can't do what some other guy can!! Life happens. Take it as it comes at you. That's all you can do. It could have gotten a lot uglier if you hadn't called- maybe things would have gotten out of hand?





What's past is past. You can't change that. Look towards the future= )
if he can't afford a nice staff why not borrow harry potters? I hear he's got a nice one. all he did was punch you in the head and you called the police? Wow you over reacted big time. Oh wait, you took him back, yeah.. how many blows to the head have you taken again?





...idiot
Ouch, getting called up on how you 'don't have what other people have', or getting compared, as a guy really hurts ... it makes you feel like less of a man ... it really hits hard ...





Though violence against women isn't cool ...
see what happen 2 ppl that r greedy


money money money


never satisfied
This is proof that all women want is popularity and money.





Vile, and disguisting to say the very least.
All because you wanted a flash holiday and want money. You greedy cow and shame on you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
napper, she came her for advice not verbal abuse!!!





what i can say about this situation is that its like the news. one minute its front page news and slowly it gets pushed to the back on the paper. in your circumstance so what if people know about it, as you and your husband patch things up your neighbours and friends will see you lot are ok and they will move on. dont stress yourself, laugh about it...its just a memory now, think about working towards that holiday both of you need. thats the beauty of marriage working together.





i hope you feel better. take care
Your initial moaning about his inability to provide you with the things you want (not need!) was insensitive jealousy of your friend. You don't say he is lazy or feckless and so I imagine he is doing his best to provide everything you NEED - but not quite managing everything you WANT - there is an enormous difference between need and want. So be a bit more reasonable.





BUT he punched you in the head - which is a 100% unacceptable response in any circumstances (except self-defence if being attacked physically!).





Your husband is thinking of running away from the problem - which is one solution and maybe in the end he will need to leave but not as a first response.





First you two need to talk it all through and you probably need to have some help from a Mariage Guidance Counsellor.





Try to get jim down that line - but also have a care for yourself because such a violent response is worrying.





Good luck
well, it is common for women to do that. i guess, your emotions get all fired up and you tend to forget about anything good he has done for you.





however! he should of not punched you in the head, the punch could casue severe damage to you, taht may affect you for future jobs.





every couple has the ';big'; fight, it would make you and him stronger.





the solution to your problem is this -- talk to him. you two HAVE to open up to your problems. you would be suprise to know how many couples hold their grudges in rather than talking about them.





be realistic , the economy is in shambles, he is worried about long term goals, while your worrying about materilistic things.